I was born with an innate inability to be flirtatious. As soon as he gives you that half smile and intense eye contact, you are knocking drinks and tables over as you literally do the 100-yard dash toward the nearest bathroom and curl up into the fetal position because its all just too much. Its kind of flattery. 8.Update Her With Pictures A Picture is worth a thousand words. Dont be a clown or comedian. ( although I often exaggerate how naive I really am to make people drop their guards around.